Among those who eagerly share their knowledge and experience with the world is Andrzej Śmiech. The relationship specialist uses social media to suggest what we should pay attention to in order to live better. In one of his recent Instagram videos, he addressed a common issue that affects long-term relationships.
This is why intimacy in a relationship fades. One thing can bring it back
Do you remember those days of being in love when you couldn't keep your hands off each other? Hugs, kisses, constant closeness... But over time, these gestures of affection may start to give way to the daily grind
- reads the post.
This issue often arises in long-term relationships, where we drift apart. Daily life is filled with organizational matters, children, chores, shopping, responsibilities, work. And when we finally have time to spend together, we end up talking about organizational matters, children, chores, and so on. The closeness and intimacy between partners fade away.
It turns out that in many cases, you don't need trips, fancy dinners, or expensive gifts. A small, cost-free gesture can be very helpful and mean a lot. "Neglecting these small gestures can gradually lead to drifting apart. That's why it's important to remember these simple but powerful habits that create closeness and a sense of security in a relationship," the post says.
What habits are we talking about? The specialist highlighted one in particular. A small gesture can improve the relationship in many ways, especially in terms of feeling close.
We forget to hug each other. And hugging is important because it builds our closeness. Additionally, the habit of really listening to each other. Not just listening to what needs to be done and by when, but asking, 'How are you? How do you feel about it?' The habit of spending time together in silence is also important. It's worth disconnecting from daily duties and just being together
- said the author in the video.
"A long-term relationship feels incestuous... Butterflies die and turn into moths"
Hugging is such a simple and seemingly trivial gesture that it sometimes loses its meaning. Yet, many people are unaware of the huge difference it can make in a relationship. In the comments, we see a lot of responses from people who were deeply touched by the specialist's message. Some genuinely miss this closeness, while others "can't imagine a day without hugging."
99% of people don't know how to listen at all...
I keep missing my husband, and even when I just want to hug him, he's only thinking about one thing. So I don't do it, and neither does he. Sometimes a long-term relationship feels incestuous... Butterflies die and turn into moths.
Exactly, why does this happen? He caught me, and that's it.
The most important thing is to keep trying for each other.
My husband and I hug every day for 20 years. I can't imagine a day without hugging.
We've been together for 14 years, and every day I hear declarations of love and lots of compliments from my husband. There are also fights because it can't be perfect when there are two zodiacal lions in a relationship, but we've never lacked love or passion.
I've been married for 34 years. The beginning of the year brought various changes in our professional and private lives, so we've been distant lately. I really miss it—I think we both miss hugging. It's an incredible therapy. I think people don't realize it. I wish everyone would discover this type of marital therapy, which works wonders
- read the comments.
