An anonymous post from a new mom appeared on Reddit. The young woman has a problem because her husband wants to leave her alone with their daughter for a week to go on a so-called "guys' trip" with his brothers.
Husband Wants to Go on a 'Guys' Trip' with His Brothers, but His Wife Recently Gave Birth to Their Baby
Last week, I asked Jake if he could cancel the trip. I told him that it’s been hard for me, and his absence for an entire week would be really tough. He seemed surprised and a bit hurt by my request. He said he had been looking forward to this trip for months and that he needed a break too. He pointed out that his parents live nearby and could help me if I needed support while he's away
- the woman recounts. She feels hurt by her husband's reaction because she thought he would understand her request and cancel the trip without any problem. Especially since the trip was planned before their daughter was born, and they had agreed that if necessary, it would be canceled. She feels resentful but also plagued by guilt, wondering if she's doing the right thing by pushing him to change his decision and if she has the right to do so.
Internet Users Defend the Woman: "You Won't Get a Break for Many Months"
The anonymous mom's post received many comments. People online supported her and explained that there’s nothing wrong with her not wanting to be left alone with the baby for an entire week while her husband relaxes with his brothers.
You were pregnant for 9 months. You gave birth. You had to deal with the physical effects of childbirth. Your hormones are still not back to normal. You’re breastfeeding. All of this adds up to the shared challenges you both face as parents of an infant. So expecting him to take a week-long break while you likely won’t be able to take a similar break for many months is unfair
- wrote one person. There were many similar comments. "Your husband is ridiculous. This is absolutely absurd" - added someone else. Only a few defended the man, suggesting that perhaps he didn’t have bad intentions, especially since the trip had been planned for months and wasn’t a last-minute decision, and the woman hadn’t objected earlier.
Some time later, the anonymous mom updated her post, letting those following her story know how things turned out. She admitted that the whole situation caused her to have "a bit of a breakdown". She shared her feelings and doubts with her husband. After a long and honest conversation, he apologized for his behavior.
He said he doesn’t want to turn into his father and hadn’t realized that the trip might be a first step toward becoming the absent dad he feared he could be. He apologized for not considering me and Olivia and how we might feel
- the woman explained.
