Why Can't I Find Friends? "We Often Bring It Upon Ourselves"

A study conducted in August 2022 by the Institute of Generations found that as many as 53% of Poles experience feelings of loneliness. Where does the cause lie? Experts have weighed in on the matter.
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Loneliness is defined as a subjective emotional state associated with feelings of social isolation, the absence of close individuals, living in solitude, and the sensation of being cut off or abandoned by others. This emotional state can fluctuate and often depends on life circumstances. Although loneliness has been a part of human experience for centuries, it now affects an increasing portion of society.

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Loneliness in Modern Times: Why Are Human Connections So Valuable?

More and more people are complaining about loneliness, noting that despite their efforts to form relationships, they often fail. Reflecting on the causes of this phenomenon, psychologist Professor Katarzyna Popiołek from SWPS University emphasized in an interview with Newsweek that "loneliness doesn’t happen overnight. It’s something that takes time. Unfortunately, we often bring it upon ourselves."

In a study she conducted, participants were asked to estimate the time they spend on work and professional development and then to assess how much time they dedicate to interpersonal relationships. The difference was significant. "We claim to want others in our lives, but only as part of the decor or a rescue team when something goes wrong," Popiołek noted.

Loneliness in Poland: It Affects People of All Ages, from Children to Seniors

Loneliness comes in many forms and increasingly affects younger individuals. "It will only get worse," warns social psychologist Professor Wojciech Kulesza in an interview with Wydarzenia.Interia.pl, pointing to the "hidden costs" society will bear as a result of growing isolation. The COVID-19 pandemic exacerbated this issue, and loneliness now affects people of all ages. Younger generations may live longer in solitude, particularly impacting young men. Kulesza observes that teenagers increasingly express feelings of loneliness, signaling a worsening situation. "We will struggle with loneliness-related diseases, such as dementia, heart disease, or depression," he adds.