Zosia, a law student, entered their lives five years ago. At first, Wiktor was seeing her with his wife's consent, and then they invited her to live with them.
We have a big apartment. Zosia had her own room. We didn’t charge her rent; we treated her like a friend with benefits. At first, it was just the two of us together sporadically. Then my wife, Jolanta, joined us
- Wiktor told Newsweek.
A Love Triangle Required Some Ground Rules
Although their open relationship initially had no rules, Wiktor emphasized that due to Zosia's personality, after a few weeks, they decided to establish a schedule for their intimate moments: on Mondays, he and Zosia were together, and on Tuesdays, it was Zosia and Jolanta. The rest of the week, they focused on their own activities. Saturdays were reserved for intimate time as a trio.
She seemed happy with this arrangement. But after a few months, she started dating a classmate who was a strong believer in monogamy. She moved out, and we began looking for a new partner to live with us
- Wiktor said.
The Rule of Not Falling in Love with the Other Person
After this experience, the couple decided to look for new partners separately on dating platforms. Jolanta started a relationship with a married military officer, and Wiktor with a divorced woman. "Living together wasn't an option this time. Casual sex on the side was fine. We agreed that we would meet others separately, but we wrote down some rules" - Wiktor explained to Newsweek.
The first rule on their list was: "We ask our spouse for permission before meeting with the second partner on a given day". Another rule was that dates could only take place on days agreed upon with the spouse. They had to be home before midnight and never fall in love. "We only love our spouse" - they noted. Unfortunately, this last rule caused the most issues. Wiktor learned this the hard way when his lover began pressuring him to leave his wife. They had to end their relationship. Currently, only Jolanta remains in a relationship with another man.
